CORE VALUES

what i stand for

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Be willing to be wrong  

This work demands a willingness to be wrong about certain beliefs about ourselves that got us to this point. As an example, “I’m unlovable.”

The willingness to be wrong involves stepping outside of your comfort zone and introducing a new pain you aren't familiar with. 

Feeling unlovable is still a form of pain – but it’s a pain you’ve found comfort, identity, and safety in. If you were willing to be wrong about that belief, how much better would your life get?

02

Be comfortable with the uncomfortable

If you want a great relationship, you must be willing to do what it takes to have a great relationship. Speaking up, asking for your needs to be met, communicating effectively, and walking away from situations that don’t serve you feel uncomfortable if the fear of rejection is more powerful than your ability to put yourself first. The good news is, the more comfortable you become with the uncomfortable, the easier it is to silence the fear instead of yourself.

Give generously within healthy boundaries that feel good 

Kindness and boundaries co-exist! We give generously to our community, clients, and organizations we choose to support. We understand that giving isn’t just about money. It also includes time, attention, space, and energy. Therefore, we honor and give to ourselves as well so we can continue to give to others from desire and overflow, in all forms, and never from depletion, or out of a fear that we have to or we'll lose something. 

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Honest Expression of Self  

It’s not speaking up that scares you. It’s not knowing how someone will respond to you that has you express yourself in whatever way feels like it'll create the least amount of risk for rejection or anger from another person. An honest expression of yourself means that you speak up for yourself no matter what, and trust that you can handle any pushback or fallout that comes from speaking your truth authentically, honestly and in integrity with who you are.

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Safety

I'm committed to creating safe, empowering, and honest spaces, where you feel welcome and excited to come back to. Join in the conversations, or watch from the sidelines until you’re ready to participate. Come as you are.
We’re committed to equitable pay for my team, equal rights, anti-racism, decolonization. We listen, learn, apologize and make amends if we cause harm.

You are lovable, worthy, and deserving –adjectives not exclusive to a relationship status. You don’t have to change who you are in order to be worthy of love or find love. 

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You’re lovable just the way you are

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You have the power to make a change on your own terms 

Your past relationships are part of your experience, but not the truth of what’s available to you. Toxic relationships thrive because you haven't decided what you will and will not accept.

You can make a decision, on your own terms. Value yourself more than the opportunity!

You never have to settle, believe this is all that's available to you, or that you're too old to start over.